Dear Readers,
Who doesn't love tiaras? They're breathtaking, regal, and often considered the pinnacle of jewellery craftsmanship. But behind the sparkle lies a strict code of etiquette that can turn wearing one into a social blunder. In fact, the wrong tiara moment could get you swiftly blacklisted by the etiquette and protocol police.
THE RIGHT PLACE, THE RIGHT TIME
Did you know that tiaras are only meant for very specific occasions? Traditionally, they should not be worn outside of sanctioned events. If tiaras (or other jewelled headpieces such as kokoshniks, bandeaus, or coronets) are appropriate, the invitation itself will explicitly state “decorations may be worn.” This note covers not just tiaras, but also honours and orders for men. To show up crowned without such a signal would be a major faux pas.
INHERITANCE vs. PURCHASE
The complications don’t end there. Historically, tiaras are not just accessories - they’re heirlooms. Owning one is one thing, but wearing a purchased tiara to a high-society or state event is considered déclassé.
For example, Catherine, the Princess of Wales, first wore a tiara at her wedding, not before. The tradition marked her entry into a family where tiaras have been passed down for centuries. By contrast, buying a tiara off the shelf at a prestigious jewellery house - even a dazzling one - won’t carry the same legitimacy in elite circles.
A TRADITION IN DECLINE
Thankfully today, even among royals, tiaras are reserved for the most formal occasions: weddings, state banquets, and white-tie royal events. Many prefer sleek modern dress codes over centuries-old crowns. In fact, a royal gala without tiaras is no longer unusual.
Don't get me wrong, it’s natural to want a “princess for a day” moment - after all, many of us grew up on Disney movies where tiaras were practically glued to the characters’ heads. But in real life, etiquette and tradition make tiaras tricky to wear. If you’re seeking a head-turning accessory, you might want to skip the crown and opt for dramatic earrings or a statement necklace instead.
Yours sincerely,
Katarina
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