#45 ASK KATARINA: Can Cursing Ever Be Elegant? 🤬

#45 ASK KATARINA: Can Cursing Ever Be Elegant? 🤬

Dear Readers,

We are starting the very first 2025 episode of the ASK KATARINA series strongly - ahem, with profanity. Or better said: with ways to avoid swear words while not burying our frustrations inside.

Let’s face it: life isn’t always polished, and neither are our reactions. Yet, as etiquette enthusiasts, we know that elegance is about rising above, even when faced with chaos. So, can cursing ever be elegant? The short answer: not really. Being vulgar is never chic. However, as humans, we experience emotions like anger and frustration, and sometimes, a slip of the tongue is inevitable.

But fear not, there are clever ways to channel your exasperation without compromising your sophistication! Next time you’re tempted to utter a less-than-savoury word, try these alternatives:

Swap "hell" with "goodness gracious."
Instead of harsher phrases, try a dramatic "what a bother!"
Substitute "shut up" with "hush now."
Trade "stupid" for "how peculiar."
Swap "son of a..." with "well, I never!"
Instead of "what the f…," say "oh my word."

These charming (and a bit funny) substitutes preserve your composure while still letting off steam. Remember, true elegance shines not only in how we carry ourselves when things go according to plan, but also in how we handle life’s little missteps. A sense of humour and creativity will keep your dignity intact - and maybe even bring a smile to those around you :-)

Dear Readers, stay gracious, always - even when life throws you lemons.

Yours sincerely,
Katarina

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